A formal church wedding usually follows traditional protocol. The seated mother of the groom and mother of the bride is the traditional signal that the ceremony is about to begin. All guests should already be seated in front of this formality.

After the mother of the bride has taken her seat, the groom and the minister, along with the best man, enter and take their place. If the groomsmen do not accompany the bridesmaids, the groomsmen also enter with the groom and the groomsman.

Then the music changes and the bridesmaids enter, starting with the bridesmaid farthest from the bride. The distance between the bridesmaids depends on how quickly the bride wants to finish the procession. It is also taken into account that the photographer is able to get the best possible photos.

Once the maid or matron of honor has taken her place, the music for the bride changes. The bride comes in with her escort, usually her father, brother, or favorite male relative.

Usually the groomsmen and bridesmaids stand on either side of the bride and groom during the ceremony. However, this is optional. Participants can sit down during the ceremony, with only the best man and maid of honor standing with the bride and groom. You must stand with the bride and groom during the ceremony because of responsibility.

The maid or matron of honor is responsible for arranging the bride’s dress during the ceremony. When the bride is ready to drop off her flowers, the maid of honor will take care of the flowers and also make sure that the bride receives the flowers at the end of the recession ceremony.

The best man is responsible for taking care of the rings and giving the rings to the bride and groom at the right moment.

Let’s think about variations on these traditions for an outside church wedding, especially for a nontraditional couple.

First, there is really no need for bridesmaids and groomsmen. If the bride includes these honorable people, she might consider allowing them to wear clothing that has many more uses than just the wedding.

Let’s ask the question for any wedding making plan: is the intent of each choice made for a reasonable purpose, or is it just to impress everyone, or is it just mindlessly following tradition?

The only absolute necessity for a wedding ceremony is the bride, groom, and minister. Every other person who belongs to them should be there from the couple for a special reason. Don’t just include people because you’ve always seen it. Have your own reason for each choice.

For the procession: I’ll tell you. The couple can enter together if they wish. Or the groom can enter with his parents accompanying him and then the bride can enter with her parents accompanying her. Or the groom can be in front and the bride enters alone. When she is halfway down the aisle, she can stop and wait for the groom to go out to her, and she will accompany the minister the rest of the way to the aisle. In my opinion, this regulation represents a better equality of the image of marriage than the traditional protocol.

Be careful with that Not Separate the ceremony from all traditional aspects of a wedding ceremony. If the guests are unfamiliar with everything in the ceremony, they may not be able to respect the importance of the ceremony.

The focus should always be on making a public statement and making a covenant with one another in the presence of God, family and friends. This makes the seriousness of the vows very real and reminds the couple that they were committed to each other for the rest of their lives together.


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