When you are the groom’s sister, it can be a very interesting time. For some sisters, it’s a fun time in their life, but for others, it can make some difficult feelings. Here is some advice on how to have the most fun being the groom’s sister and how to get your relationship with the bride off to a good start.
Weddings are times of great joy, but they can also be times of great stress. It’s also a time when jealousy is likely to get its ugly head straight. You wouldn’t be the groom’s first sister to be jealous because he gets married before you or because your parents give him all their attention and money. Envy is also common when the bride’s parents enter into a more lavish affair than the groom’s sister could afford. All of these feelings are perfectly normal, even if you are as happy as possible for your brother and love his fiancé to death. The key is to acknowledge them to yourself and then let them go.
There are many ways that the groom’s sister can be involved in wedding planning. The very first (and most important) thing is to let the bride know how excited you are to have her as a sister and offer to help her in any way you can with the wedding. From there, you must take your guidance from the bride. If you live in the same town, she can happily count on you to help her meet with florists and buy a wedding dress. On the other hand, in some families, the bride and her mother do almost all of the planning themselves. So if the bride does not accept your offer to help, try not to take them personally.
One type of help that every bride is happy to receive from the groom’s sister is advice on how to get along with different family members. Joining a new family can sometimes feel like moving to a foreign country, and any bride would appreciate a roadmap from someone who knows the pros and cons. The relationship between a new bride and her mother-in-law can be one of the most difficult, and anything the groom’s sister can do to put her on the right track would be a very nice gesture.
As the groom’s sister, you will likely be invited to attend the wedding in some way. The usual roles for the groom’s sister are bridesmaid or ceremony reader. If you are a bridesmaid, it is imperative that you not indulge in the typical bridesmaid gossip about how ugly the dresses are. These are the kind of things the bride’s sister can possibly get away with, but if it occurs again to the bride that her future sister-in-law criticized her taste, she is likely to suffer major insults.
If asked to be a bridesmaid, make the most of it. If the dress does not meet your wishes, there are beautiful sets with bridesmaid jewelry that give it more style. Of course, the bride often gives bridesmaid jewelry sets as gifts to her companions; If you offer to help her shop, you may be able to guide her to items that you really like. Just don’t be like my good friend’s sister-in-law was. She complained incessantly about the dresses, didn’t show up to the outfit, didn’t pick up her shoes until the last minute, and generally pretended that her brother’s wedding was a big challenge. You can imagine how the bride felt about it!
The last thing the groom’s sister should do is plan to have a toast at the wedding. It doesn’t have to take long, just from the heart. A few nice words about your happiness in your brother in finding such a perfect wife and your joy in having a new sister would be ideal. You will be known as a very gracious sister of the groom and will add to the happiness of the newlyweds on their special day.